Photo: Tom Magliery, Vancouver, Canada.

This week’s blogosphere bits include: How to signal “no” to an online suitor, the question of whether as women we create our own glass ceilings, and a humorist’s solution to the rhetoric about guns and politics.

  • Joan Price, of Better than I Ever Expected, is dipping her toes into the online dating pool — which means she needs some extra tools. Last week, Price shared a new discovery: notes from others that demonstrate “how to say “no” with class“.   Don’t just ignore the queries of strangers, she writes. Use the models she included — “You seem like a smart and interesting person, and I could be making a mistake, but somehow I feel that we aren’t a good fit” — to let people down gently. She asks us to tell her if we’ve received “‘no, thank you’ notes that made you smile instead of cringe.”
  • Would you be surprised to learn that women legislators are overall more effective than male ones? Neither would we. But now, WVFC contributor Diane Vacca confirms it at her Vacca Bureau of Investigation.  Vacca looks at a new American Journal of Political Science study finding that “Women sponsored more bills (an average of three more per Congress), co-sponsored more bills (an average of 26 more per Congress), and attracted a greater number of co-sponsors.”
  • With that kind of track record, why do women still earn, on average, two-thirds of what men do? Is it because we want it that way?   In “Your Inner Glass Ceiling?“, Echidne zeroes in on the way male researchers and commentators use data about specific jobs in differing areas to pull the “inevitable conclusion” that we women cause this disparity ourselves. Such columnists, she writes, “also discount the possibility that women, on average, know how that competition is judged and that the rules might not be as objective as we wish.”
  • With correspondents pouring into Egypt to cover world-changing events, veteran journalist Lydia Cacho writes at Eurozine about the stress and trauma often felt by foreign correspondents, who need to get beyond the old principle of If it bleeds, it leads. “We need to learn to operate in a world where much of the media have been captivated by the spectacle of cruelty,” she writes, although “In the fabulous world of ratings, to survive and maintain one’s dignity is hardly good news.”
  • Last but definitely not least, some new thoughts about the Tucson shooting from a somewhat unlikely source: WVFC’s Roz Warren, half of Team Librarian.  “I’d like to ask everyone to stop calling these jerks  ‘killers’ and ‘shooters,’ which sounds macho and cool, as if they’re participants in some kind of kick-ass video game,” she writes, offering a practical if not quite politically correct alternative:  ‘Start calling them what they really are, which is  ‘schmucks.””

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  • Joan Price February 3, 2011 at 11:36 am

    Thank you so much for including my blog about sex & aging (and dating and other related topics) in your recommendations! I’m subscribing!

    Joan Price

    Author of Better Than I Ever Expected: Straight Talk about Sex After Sixty and the upcoming Naked at Our Age: Talking Out Loud about Senior Sex.