This week, we have tributes to Geraldine Ferraro, lingerie tips from the wife of a Frenchman, and a happy-77th-birthday love letter to Gloria Steinem.

  • What did you learn from Gloria Steinem, and when? The answers are still coming: see Shelby Knox’s On Her 77th Birthday, 7 Things I’ve Learned From Gloria Steinem.  It’s worth reading in full, starting with the first rule, ‘Patriarchy is a relatively new mistake,’ and continuing to maxims like “If it looks like a duck and walks like a duck and quacks like a duck, but you think it’s a pig… it’s a pig.” Self explanatory enough – trust yourself, always. For many of us marginalized people, we’ve been taught to do just the opposite. This is what oppressive forces want and something we must resist with all of our being.” Click the link to learn what Steinem and Knox  mean by “We all need a chosen family” and perhaps most mysterious, “Ask the turtle.”
  • We knew that we weren’t the only site saddened by the loss of Gerry Ferraro, or even the only one to respond with a video. Tennessee Guerilla Women has tons more–including her VP debate with George H.W. Bush–and we were also taken by the heartfelt response of New Deal 2.0’s Lynn Parramore. “I was just fourteen when Walter Mondale chose her as his running mate, and I recall thinking: ‘Wow! Who is this feisty woman on TV talking about the White House?!?’,” Parramore writes. “A woman running for vice president was something new and exciting. Everybody knew she had to be tough as nails and whip smart to navigate the minefields of such an unprecedented candidacy. What was more amazing than her poise was her plausibility. To hear her speak was to take her seriously. In fact, there were times when she seemed more plausible as a leader than the other candidate on her ticket. This was a woman who had been a mother, a lawyer, a successful Congresswoman. She was a tough-talking New Yorker, but the fact that she had stayed home until her kids were school age made it harder for conservatives to paint her as something unnatural and unwomanly.”
  • When Alexandra MacAaron isn’t writing top-drawer culture pieces for WVFC, she’s either running her direct-marketing agency or running to keep up with her tween daughter, she tells us. And sometimes, she writes in her blog Lovin’ the Alien, both of the latter roles clash hard, as when her daughter takes her somewhere she’s obviously not the target audience. Like the mall, where she goes to buy her daughter jeans:  “We escape from Abercrombie relatively unscathed — just the jeans, not a single graphic tee or hoodie. My daughter is elated. I’m a bit bewildered, but … I am not the target audience.” There is, however, some common ground, she writes: “Next, we track down the store Pink, a colorful, brightly lit shop of cotton undies, sleepwear and Betty Boop-inspired lingerie. …My daughter needs a strapless bra to wear under a sundress for an upcoming bat mitzvah. Styles change, but there are some things you can rely on. Whether you’re 13 or 48, you buy a strapless bra because you have to — not because it’s comfortable.” Though no midlife woman we know shops at Pink.
  • Speaking of shopping for intimates, Deja Pseu of Une Femme guest blogs at A Woman of a Certain Age on an issue recently highlighted in our Sex Talks: lingerie. In “Dressing Up and Staying In,” Pseu helps zero in on the category’s sweet spot: “While there may be times that call for the full Frederick’s of Hollywood  treatment, in those situations comfort is irrelevant as those pieces generally aren’t worn for an extended period of time. 😉 But in between naughty-wear and oversized cartoon character sleep shirts, there’s a middle ground I think of as allure, and it’s achievable on a regular basis. You can find sleepwear that’s comfortable, yet pretty enough to garner some favorable attention from that person on the other side of the bed.”

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  • S. Bewkes March 31, 2011 at 7:19 am

    Loved Deja Pseu’s “Dressing Up and Staying In” guest piece over at WVfC contributor Tish Jett’s blog, A Femme dUn Certain Age. WVfC contributor Lisa from Amid Priviledge and I also contributed to the series.