Relationships & Dating

The Special Power of First Love

Dear Dr. Ford,

Recently, my high school boyfriend contacted me on Facebook. We dated for a year when we were freshmen and I have never forgotten him. In some ways, it was the best year of my life. He made me feel special in ways that I had never realized were possible.

We broke up when his family moved away, but in some ways, I think I have never stopped looking for him. I married someone who resembled him somewhat, actually, but it broke up after 15 years when I discovered he was unfaithful to me.

Jeff, my old boyfriend, is also divorced now, and he is suggesting getting together. I am excited but a little afraid. I’m worried that my interest in him is based on teenage fantasies and I will be disappointed. I am afraid that he will be disappointed in me and how I look after 40 years. He has seen my photos on Facebook, of course, but still, it’s a long way from 14 to 54.

What should I do? I am single, and interested in dating, but in some ways I’d rather preserve the memory of my sweet first love than risk a disappointing reunion. Am I being unrealistic in thinking there may be a chance for us?

Adeline

 

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