For now, let’s pass on our first reactions to news of the Eliot Spitzer scandal. Let’s pass on what WE would like to do to the Governor of New York at this moment. (Let’s just say he would NOT want to be a room full of smart mature women.)

Instead, our shout out to a brave and dignified woman who endured a televised news conference today that had to be … unbearable.

I don’t know about you, but I’m almost ready to call for a moratorium on boy politicians. Would Sen. Barbara Mikulski (D-Maryland) ever be in this position? Or Sen. Kay Bailey Hutchison? (R-Texas?)

Elaine L.

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  • Beth March 26, 2008 at 10:17 pm

    In the back of New York Magazine are pages and pages of advertisements for escort services with pictures of come-hither-posed females. On the cover and inside this duplicitous magazine are pictures of politicians who have fallen from grace, caught in the snare of easy sex with no intimacy involved.
    Where is the hue and cry for the media to change their standards, to make less money from sexual advertisements?
    If the media continues to follow the sexual behavior of the rich and powerful, it seems to me that they should stop their pimping first.

  • Marguerite Bouvard March 26, 2008 at 12:10 pm

    There is a third party to this story and that is the one of prostitutes. The New York Times ran an article on the “high price” prostitutes, that turns victims into predators.
    But here are some facts to consider. Sweden is the only country that does not have pimps. It has a policy of granting low cost housing and job training to women who would otherwise turn to prostitution to earn a living.
    The majority of women who turn to prostitution have low self-esteem and a history of abuse, as noted by the columnist Nicholas Kristof.
    Sexual trafficking is the third-highest international criminal activity after arms and drugs.
    Few prostitutes will live to an age that would allow them to participate in activities and web sites for older women.

  • Carolyn Hahn March 15, 2008 at 9:54 pm

    I agree. Who are any of us to judge a woman who stand by her (very flawed) man?
    Remember your friend who tried to get you to stop going out with x, that idiot/alcoholic/whatever you were going out with for x long? Did you stop because she told you to? Probably not. You just had to see how bad it could get before you were finally ready.

  • beth March 15, 2008 at 2:49 pm

    It is alarming and dispiriting that women take such polarizing stands on issues that belong to a private family. The Spitzer tragedy has brought out the worst in the media, often from female journalists. Judging from the comments here, this tendency is also all too clear.
    None of us should be judgmental about the private lives of others. Women who live their lives under the glare of public klieg lights often suffer harsh criticism about the most painful and delicate choices that they must make.
    I often wonder if civility is extinct.
    Perhaps WVFC readers could think about changing how we judge others when none of us leads a perfect life. Perhaps it is time to change from judging to observing, and in a mindful way, letting the issue of another’s private pain return to that person for management.
    This could be the ONE GOOD THING that comes out of this epic fall from grace.

  • Linda March 14, 2008 at 9:28 am

    I have no sympathy for her at all. She has everything most women could only dream of money, education and she isn’t stuck in a bad relationship like many women would be. Personally, shame on her if she stays with him. She has 3 teenage daughters and if she stays with him, she is a horrible mother and role model. Sorry if my words sound harsh but I have an 18 year old daughter and I left my ex and I didn’t have a Harvard degree and millions of dollars in the bank. My daughter is proud of that choice I made and it taught her to stand up for herself and not accept less from a man then she deserves. Silda is an embarrassment to women.

  • Joanne C March 13, 2008 at 6:40 am

    Elaine L has it right! It is past time for the boys to stand aside – and do their nasty activities out of the spotlight – we need sensible, mature, smart leadership for this country. We have it overflowing in our womanhood. Let’s get them all nominated, elected, appointed and working on the issues that matter. And let the boys eat our dust!
    The really awful aspect of Letterman and his ilk is that Silda and women in her situation in public life can be made the punch line of non-funny jokes simply by the ill conceived actions of their spouses. So, just in case this was not horrible enough, she can relax by watching Letterman grind her face in it all over again. Pathetic and, worse – not the least bit funny! He used to be able to do better than that. Think is getting old, tired, rusty. Time to retire old Dave.

  • PTG March 12, 2008 at 8:43 am

    Three minutes at $4,000 an hour comes to $200. Get out your calculator, Silda, and figure out what this cad owes you.

  • Carolyn Hahn March 11, 2008 at 9:44 pm

    They’ve been married for two decades and he’s the father of her children. Maybe she stood by him because he’s more than the sum of his parts, but man, does she deserve better.
    Letterman started out last night with “Is it too soon to start hitting on Silda”? which may have been his backhanded version of a compliment [she is so beautiful and smart–what kind of idiot would pay that kind of money for an hour of sex with “Kristen”–I’d pay it for an hour of Silda’s company at a dinner party, for God’s sake] but it was so upsetting that we had to turn it off. Not funny, just mean.
    Anyway, I don’t even want to call him an idiot, because again, maybe he is more than the sum of his parts. Maybe for her daughters’ sake, she doesn’t want to pull the plug on him as a human being.
    I saw an interview with Dana (ex)McGreevey in which she said she had less than an hour to think about it before she had to decide whether to stand by his side or not–at least in the short term.

  • elaine lafferty March 11, 2008 at 2:39 pm

    Hi Tami
    Good point, and I actually don’t disagree. The water cooler discussion today really does ask your question, “WHY do the wives have to stand there!?” That said, I feel sympathy for Silda Spitzer, and just always feel proud when a women shows dignity in the face of…somthing like this!

  • Tami Anderson March 11, 2008 at 1:37 pm

    I do not want to denigrate Mrs. Spitzer more than her husband already has but I must point out that instead of praising wives who have been publicly humiliated, from Vanessa Bryant to Hillary Clinton to now, sadly, Mrs. Spitzer, we should question why the practice of asking them to stand next to their spouses during these confessional press conferences as some sort of silent support is remotely OK. Their husbands, and their husbands’ cadre of political advisers, should allow the wives a modicum of privacy while they determine if and how they will go on in their relationships. There was no reason he could not and should not have stood there and took the microphone, and the scrutiny, alone. I don’t feel proud, or ashamed, of Mrs. Spitzer for standing there, but I do feel incredibly sad that she was compelled to do so.