Sex & Sexuality

Straight Talk About Sex After 40
[From Our Archives]

No interest in sex? Curious about sex toys? To give our readers frank and explicit answers to questions they may be too (or not!) embarrassed to ask, over the years Women’s Voices has called on the expertise of two gynecologists—our co-founder and publisher, Patricia Yarberry Allen, M.D., and Hilda Hutcherson, M.D., Professor of Obstetrics and Gynecology at Columbia University Medical Center. Writing separately and together, they have shared incisive counsel on issues like terrific orgasms; the pleasure of sex toys; satisfaction, lubrication, and oral sex; vaginal conditioning; sex after hysterectomy; sex in the 40s — and more. You’ll find many other straightforward articles on sex and older women in our archives here, all of them written by physicians.

 

AFTER HYSTERECTOMY, A NEW APPROACH TO SEX AND ORGASM
By Hilda Hutcherson, M.D.

“Sex may change after hysterectomy, but that does not mean that it can’t be intensely satisfying. You can help put that spark back into sex by discovering new, exciting ways to experience pleasure.” READ MORE

 

LUBRICATION, SATISFACTION, AND ORAL SEX (PART TWO)
By Patricia Yarberry Allen, Md., And Hilda Hutcherson, M.D.

“Silicone-based lubricants, which are also water-based, have an oily texture, but you can use them with a condom. And the reason I like to use them in menopausal women is because they last a long time. They really lubricate the vaginal wall very, very well, protect it from abrasions, and last a long time. But they are difficult to remove.” READ MORE

 

A HEALTHIER, MORE SATISFYING SECOND HALF OF LIFE: SEX IN THE 40s
By Patricia Yarberry Allen, M.D.

“Hormonal change in the forties begins long before the last menstrual period occurs and often affects vaginal comfort before other symptoms appear. Be informed and discuss this issue with your health care provider.” READ MORE

 

SEX TALK: TOY STORIES, PART 2
By Patricia Yarberry Allen, M.D., and Hilda Hutcherson, M.D.

In their last conversation, Dr. Pat and Dr. Hilda opened the toy box. Here, the sex-toy discussion moves on to solo pleasures and gets down to basics: how much vibration, where, and how. READ MORE

 

VAGINAL CONDITIONING AND EXTERNAL ESTROGEN (Part Two)
By Patricia Yarberry Allen, M.D., and Hilda Hutcherson, M.D.

“Pelvic floor physical therapy is astonishing. It’s a great addition to my practice. And even though, Hilda, you and I both spend a lot of time with our patients and we enjoy the sex therapy aspect of our practice, we don’t have time to do one hour of physical therapy, teaching a patient all of the things that she needs to do while stretching and getting her to manipulate the genital tissue.” READ MORE

 

VAGINAL HEALTH AND TERRIFIC ORGASMS
By Patricia Yarberry Allen, M.D., and Hilda Hutcherson, M.D.

Dr. Hilda: “I have a lot of women who complain that the quality of the orgasm has changed, that it takes longer to get there, and when it does come, it’s not as intense, and it doesn’t last as long, that there used to be an explosion, and now it’s a little blip on the radar.  It’s very sad.” READ MORE

 

HILDA ON SEX: “I JUST CAN’T GIVE HIM WHAT HE WANTS ME TO GIVE”
By Hilda Hutcherson, M.D.

“We all know that sex releases chemicals that make you feel closer to your partner. And is it really fair to ask your husband to go without sex? So let’s figure out how to get your mojo back. READ MORE

 

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