In this week’s Wednesday 5: Choosing your married or maiden name is still a dilemma; Diana Nyad’s strength and discipline in recovering from failure; one woman’s fight to create Lebanon’s first marathon; the biggest honor in British comedy goes to comedian Bridget Christie; and the gender divide in social media usage (this time some of it is a good thing).
To take your partner’s name or not? That is the question we’re still debating, apparently. Pamela Paul, in a piece for The New York Times, “The Problem That Has Two Names,” unearthed what on the surface might seem like an antiquated dilemma, but turns out it’s not quite. “The problem of married versus maiden names should be good and solved. But many women are still caught in an in-between purgatory: why have to choose?” Choosing to go by two names, married and maiden, she says, might sound great conceptually, but it gets tricky in the demands of daily life: at security checkpoints when traveling, paying taxes, establishing professional reputations, credit cards, etc. And when it comes to the family unit, Paul questions: “Isn’t our shared name part of what unites us as a family? Why would I want to set myself apart?” Of course, the big elephant in the room is, What happens in the event of divorce? What becomes of the name?
Read more at “The Problem Has Two Names,” The New York Times.
We can’t get enough of Diana Nyad. Neither can the rest of the world, and rightly so! What she has accomplished at 64—completing a 53-hour, 110-mile swim from Havana to the shores of Key West without protection from sharks (after four failed attempts)—embodies what Women’s Voices for Change stands for—reinvention (and determination). Our publisher, Dr. Patricia Yarberry Allen, who with bated breath followed Nyad’s story over the weekend, wrote about what a major moment this was for women and girls.
The story will continue in the voices of loving mothers across time and many lands. . . Diana Nyad’s story will always deliver a message of hope to the mothers of these daughters—and to all women who are no longer young as well.
What strikes us most about Nyad’s story is not so much her moment of triumph on Sunday, but the strength and discipline she showed in recovering from failure. Those failures and challenges, and how she overcame them, are detailed in the 2011 CNN documentary below on one of Nyad’s remarkable journeys, “Diana Nyad: Xtreme Dream.”
May El-Khalil of Lebanon Creates the Country’s First Marathon
While Diana Nyad swam her marathon race, another woman, May El-Khalil, halfway around the world in Lebanon, created the Beirut International Marathon, the largest running event in the Middle East. She tells us in a TED Talk that in the war-torn country, “there is one gunshot a year that isn’t part of a scene of routine violence—the marathon.” Instead, the 26.2-mile running event “brings together a country divided for decades by politics and religion, even if for one day a year.“
Bridget Christie Wins Edinburgh Prize for Comedy
At this year’s Edinburgh Festival Fringe, the biggest honor in British comedy went to comedian Bridget Christie, whose show A Bic For Her (inspired by Bic’s colorful “female friendly” pens) holds up a mirror to sexism, chauvinism, and a whole lot of other negative “isms.” It’s a laudable accomplishment, since Christie is only the third woman to win the prize for a solo show. Christie is also the star of a BBC TV show about feminism called Bridget Christie Minds the Gap. See a short excerpt from A Bic for Her below.
Women and Social Media
If you’re following Women’s Voices, you’re probably one of our faithful social media followers. (If not, here is our Twitter and Facebook!) Social Media Today has condensed a host of new data out on how women and men use social media differently. As it turns out, social media is a powerful platform for women’s voices (and buying power) and women in turn are leveraging it strategically. See, for example, Fast Company‘s recent list of the 25 of the Smartest Women on Twitter. Here’s how the recent data breaks down:
- 71 % of women vs. 62% of men use social networking sites.
- Each month, 40 million more women use Twitter than men.
- Women are behind 52% of the sharing of information on Facebook.
- Women are 70% of Pinterest’s users.