Grandmother 911: Out of the Storybook and Into Reality

January 28, 2016 by Cecilia M. Ford, Ph.D.


While there are common themes in our readers’ comments, one of the most frequent is a sense of being taken advantage of. Many of you wrote to say that your children take you for granted, expecting you to babysit at a moment’s notice without taking into consideration the realities of your life circumstances.

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New Year’s Day Resolution: Right-Sizing Life

January 1, 2016 by Patricia Allen


By Patricia Yarberry Allen, M.D.

This year The Husband and I have decided to right-size our lives. Our resolution is to right-size the way we would like to live now. We want to have a smaller apartment in the city and find a house in the country, a house that is far enough away to prevent daily commuting into New York City but close enough for long weekends by car and convenient for family and friends to join us.

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Grandchildren: Pleasures and Burdens

December 31, 2015 by Cecilia M. Ford, Ph.D.


By Cecilia M. Ford, Ph.D.

As a parent, you are free to make your own decisions, but when you are taking care of someone else’s children, you are expected to abide by their rules. This can be especially sticky within families, because as a caretaker you have been given responsibilities, but may not be given much of a “voice” in the decision making.

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Make New Friends . . . But Keep the Old

December 30, 2015 by Eleanore Wells


By Eleanore Wells

As the old song goes, “make new friends, but keep the old; one is silver and the other is gold.” I’m reminded of this song often, as I navigate my new life (three months in) Down Under.

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Mourning the Passing of the F.A.O. Schwarz Flagship Store

December 27, 2015 by Susan Fier


By Susan Fier

I will miss the fantasy world that used to reside in 767 Fifth Avenue.

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A Christmas Morning Gift: The Joy of Pouring Hot Chocolate

December 25, 2015 by Barbara Fertig


By Barbara Fertig

This Christmas will be my last with my daughter, who is now in hospice care. It will mark the end of what I thought was the proper celebration of Christmas. Next year will not, however, be an attempt to recreate the past without her. I will be giving my own gift of service to some of the 400 homeless who show up at the door of Trinity Methodist Church here in Savannah. I look forward to the joy of pouring hot chocolate in their cups.

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True Gifts of Christmas

December 25, 2015 by Diane Dettmann

Dettmann tree

By Diane Dettmann

Over the years, my family’s lives have moved in new directions and we seldom are able to come together in one place. . .The true gifts of Christmas are love for each other, hope in times of darkness and keeping the memories of those we love wrapped in our hearts forever.

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Love Is All There Is: My New Thoughts on Christmas

December 23, 2015 by Toni Myers


By Toni Myers

I invited people to come to an Open House on a December weekend. I did not go crazy with the guest list: I invited every neighbor in my Block Watch Association, some of whom I don’t know, my entire senior aerobics class, and my book club, as well as the usual suspects: The point was inclusion, rather than “yes to her, no to him.”

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My Hanukkah–Christmas Song

December 22, 2015 by Eleanor Foa Dienstag


By Eleanor Foa Dienstag

As a child, I found nothing strange about the fact that, despite our being Jewish, we had a huge tree, hung with lots of sparkly decorations, with a panoply of presents underneath. We were Americans. We loved Christmas. So did everyone else.

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You’ve Got Mail

December 21, 2015 by Roe Bressan


By Roe Bressan

Children adore getting an envelope addressed to them. Because they watch their parents open packages and cards, mail for them seems to be an exclusively adult event. That is, until they hear the magic words, “Hey Leo, you have a card in the mail from Roe!”

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The Warmth of the Season

December 20, 2015 by Judie Rae


By Judie Rae

Today, in an effort to avoid the mass consumerism that has overtaken the holiday, I still bake, only now it’s biscotti for friends. While this twice-baked delight is a great deal of work, the smells that permeate the house let us know that the holiday is near. Paired with a special bag of coffee, which I purchase on sale, the biscotti make a special gift for the postal person, the propane-delivery man, and the secretaries at the college where I teach.

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Tips for Memorable and Eco-Friendly Holiday Giving

December 18, 2015 by Judith A. Ross


By Judith A. Ross

Rather than piling lots of stuff under the tree, our family now focuses on fewer, more meaningful gifts. This ‘less-is-more’ approach has not only kept me out of the mall, but has also reduced my family’s holiday waste.

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Is Hanukkah the Jewish Christmas?

December 18, 2015 by Ellen Sue Spicer-Jacobson


By Ellen Sue Spicer-Jacobson

When people who do not know I am Jewish say, “Happy Holidays,” I usually say the same back to them. To me, the most important aspect of this season is to focus on peace, hope, harmony, and joy, whether you celebrate Hanukkah, Christmas, Kwanzaa, or the Winter Solstice.

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Christmas with My ‘Little’ Family

December 16, 2015 by Suzanne Russell


By Suzanne Russell

When I was a child, the magic of Christmas was making and giving handmade gifts. I started in September and carefully made every gift that I gave. I am returning to my childhood tradition this year and I am making something for each member of my wonderful little family.

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Alone Together: Humans in the Digital World

December 10, 2015 by Cecilia M. Ford, Ph.D.


By Cecilia M. Ford, Ph.D.

Though we are all more connected, networked, and wired than ever before, the price has been the erosion of intimacy, and decline in our powers of empathy as well.

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