Why It May Be Good for You to Go to Your School Reunion

April 25, 2016 by Cecilia M. Ford, Ph.D.

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By Cecilia M. Ford, Ph.D.

Don’t make the mistake of failing to adjust your perspective to current reality. You may have aged, but then so have your classmates. They will not be seeing you through the same eyes they used in high school (thank god!).

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On the Bright Side: Sisterly Love — ‘Jane Wants a Boyfriend’

April 18, 2016 by Cecilia M. Ford, Ph.D.

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By Cecilia M. Ford, Ph.D.

The film straddles the difficult line between taking its characters seriously and keeping the action lighthearted enough to be entertaining and engaging. The theme is love between people of differing abilities, but the central “love story” is really about the two sisters.

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Siblings: Life’s Longest Relationship

April 14, 2016 by Cecilia M. Ford, Ph.D.

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By Cecilia M. Ford, Ph.D.

The bond between brothers and sisters offers the joy of shared history, understanding, and support that can be a great pleasure and asset if treated with respect and care.

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Book Review: On Recovering from Sibling Rivalry

April 14, 2016 by Stacia Friedman

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By Stacia Friedman

“I had an older brother, but he was never a brother to me,” Jeanne Safer writes. “We spent our childhoods at the same address with the same biological parents, ate dinner at the same table every night, and even shared a room for a few years at first, although we never shared a single confidence while we occupied it.”

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Poker, Bunco, and Other Games Women Play

March 22, 2016 by Deborah Harkins

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By Deborah Harkins

The conversation can get spirited; these are not the clenched-teeth poker sessions you see in old Western movies . . . gunslingers silently throwing down cards. “There are a lot of egos around the table,” Brownmiller says, “and lots of things have happened to people around the table in the last few weeks . . . . We are all competitive, and nobody likes to lose.”

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Family Ties: Lifeline and Gordian Knot

March 17, 2016 by Cecilia M. Ford, Ph.D.

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By Cecilia M. Ford, Ph.D.

We are all shaped by the soil in which we are grown. Unlike trees, however, we can travel far from our point of origin and transform ourselves in many ways. Nevertheless, the basic psychic DNA, handed down through many generations, lives on.

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Grandmother 911: Out of the Storybook and Into Reality

January 28, 2016 by Cecilia M. Ford, Ph.D.

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While there are common themes in our readers’ comments, one of the most frequent is a sense of being taken advantage of. Many of you wrote to say that your children take you for granted, expecting you to babysit at a moment’s notice without taking into consideration the realities of your life circumstances.

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New Year’s Day Resolution: Right-Sizing Life

January 1, 2016 by Patricia Allen

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By Patricia Yarberry Allen, M.D.

This year The Husband and I have decided to right-size our lives. Our resolution is to right-size the way we would like to live now. We want to have a smaller apartment in the city and find a house in the country, a house that is far enough away to prevent daily commuting into New York City but close enough for long weekends by car and convenient for family and friends to join us.

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Grandchildren: Pleasures and Burdens

December 31, 2015 by Cecilia M. Ford, Ph.D.

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By Cecilia M. Ford, Ph.D.

As a parent, you are free to make your own decisions, but when you are taking care of someone else’s children, you are expected to abide by their rules. This can be especially sticky within families, because as a caretaker you have been given responsibilities, but may not be given much of a “voice” in the decision making.

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Make New Friends . . . But Keep the Old

December 30, 2015 by Eleanore Wells

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By Eleanore Wells

As the old song goes, “make new friends, but keep the old; one is silver and the other is gold.” I’m reminded of this song often, as I navigate my new life (three months in) Down Under.

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Mourning the Passing of the F.A.O. Schwarz Flagship Store

December 27, 2015 by Susan Fier

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By Susan Fier

I will miss the fantasy world that used to reside in 767 Fifth Avenue.

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A Christmas Morning Gift: The Joy of Pouring Hot Chocolate

December 25, 2015 by Barbara Fertig

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By Barbara Fertig

This Christmas will be my last with my daughter, who is now in hospice care. It will mark the end of what I thought was the proper celebration of Christmas. Next year will not, however, be an attempt to recreate the past without her. I will be giving my own gift of service to some of the 400 homeless who show up at the door of Trinity Methodist Church here in Savannah. I look forward to the joy of pouring hot chocolate in their cups.

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True Gifts of Christmas

December 25, 2015 by Diane Dettmann

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By Diane Dettmann

Over the years, my family’s lives have moved in new directions and we seldom are able to come together in one place. . .The true gifts of Christmas are love for each other, hope in times of darkness and keeping the memories of those we love wrapped in our hearts forever.

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Love Is All There Is: My New Thoughts on Christmas

December 23, 2015 by Toni Myers

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By Toni Myers

I invited people to come to an Open House on a December weekend. I did not go crazy with the guest list: I invited every neighbor in my Block Watch Association, some of whom I don’t know, my entire senior aerobics class, and my book club, as well as the usual suspects: The point was inclusion, rather than “yes to her, no to him.”

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My Hanukkah–Christmas Song

December 22, 2015 by Eleanor Foa Dienstag

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By Eleanor Foa Dienstag

As a child, I found nothing strange about the fact that, despite our being Jewish, we had a huge tree, hung with lots of sparkly decorations, with a panoply of presents underneath. We were Americans. We loved Christmas. So did everyone else.

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