“Feed the Good Wolf”: Dr. Ford Reviews Arianna Huffington’s ‘Thrive’

April 17, 2014 by Cecilia M. Ford, Ph.D.

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By Cecilia M. Ford, Ph.D.

“Onward, upward, and inward” were the closing words of Huffington’s Smith commencement speech, and in this book she details the ways in which she learned to focus inward in order to restore balance in her life.

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Dr. Ford on Emotional Health: Flirting at Work— at What Cost?

April 10, 2014 by Cecilia M. Ford, Ph.D.

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“I’m sure in some ways you feel you are being blamed for someone else’s bad behavior (the drunken client), and to some extent this is true. But your letter suggests that you are aware of your allure and you use it—i.e. the ‘harmless flirting’ you referred to. This incident proves to you, however, that flirting can be dangerous—if not to others, then to you.”

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Dr. Ford on Emotional Health: A Woman Alone

April 3, 2014 by Cecilia M. Ford, Ph.D.

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By Cecilia M. Ford, Ph.D.

Making assumptions that we don’t automatically make about men, we often assume that the single woman is not single by choice: Something is amiss.

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Dr. Ford: Losing a Sister—Family Conflict and the Wish to Honor Her Properly

March 27, 2014 by Cecilia M. Ford, Ph.D.

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By Cecilia M. Ford, Ph.D.

“Now that my sister is in hospice, her ex-husband is badgering everyone. He wants to do the funeral, the memorial, come to see her. He was always like this, by the way. He had to be seen as the important one.”

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Why Is Marriage So Deadly to Lust? Dr. Ford Reviews ‘Mating in Captivity’

March 20, 2014 by Cecilia M. Ford, Ph.D.

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By Cecilia M. Ford, Ph.D.

How can intimacy be bad for your marriage? It’s not, according to author Esther Perel, but it’s murder on your sex life.

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Shyness That Cripples: How to Recoup? (Dr. Ford on Emotional Health)

March 13, 2014 by Cecilia M. Ford, Ph.D.

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By Cecilia M. Ford, Ph.D.

Dr. Ford to Julia: “It is safe to say that you have been the victim of both nature and nurture: Born with innate shyness, you have a mother who, rather than having encouraged you to overcome it so as to develop relationships and work outside the home, instead has enabled you to live like a recluse.”

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Dr. Ford Reviews: ‘My Age of Anxiety,’ by Scott Stossel

March 6, 2014 by Cecilia M. Ford, Ph.D.

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By Cecilia M. Ford, Ph.D.

The description of Stossel’s attempts to alleviate his anxiety offers a fascinating window into the world of a seeker of mental health treatment, as well as the conflicting theories that buffet consumers and professionals alike.

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Dr. Ford: What Do I Do About my Teen Daughter?

February 27, 2014 by Cecilia M. Ford, Ph.D.

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“My 17-year-old defines herself as the ‘outsider.’ She has never been to a a sleep-over, refuses to have anyone sleep over here, has no friends, and is now in therapy. Do you have any advice for parents like me?”

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‘Doubt’ and the Difficulty of Confirming Childhood Sexual Abuse

February 20, 2014 by Cecilia M. Ford, Ph.D.

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By Cecilia M. Ford, Ph.D.

One of the reasons sexual abuse is so infrequently prosecuted is that as adults we often fight the idea that “nice” people—educators and others who care for our children—may be guilty of such violations. We literally can’t stomach it or imagine the possibility—and so we don’t.

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The Movie “Her” and Its Wisdom About Love (Dr. Ford on Emotional Health)

February 13, 2014 by Cecilia M. Ford, Ph.D.

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By Cecilia M. Ford, Ph.D.

The trailer for this film, which played for three months prior to its release, was falsely saccharine and misleading. Not only does the movie work, but director Spike Jonze’s script is thoughtful and deep.

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Dr. Ford on Emotional Health: “Could I Be an Alcoholic?”

February 6, 2014 by Cecilia M. Ford, Ph.D.

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By Cecilia M. Ford, Ph.D.

You may find that you can moderate your drinking without giving it up altogether. There are more options available now for people who may not want to—or be able to—embrace total abstinence.

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Closing a Circle: Artifacts of an Earlier Life

February 1, 2014 by Shelley Singer

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After Susan died, there remained a condominium in D.C. to clean out and a car to sell. It struck me profoundly that I was the only person who could have done this task justice.

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LIE, CHEAT, SPIN: The Seven Deadly Sins Revisited

January 30, 2014 by Cecilia M. Ford, Ph.D.

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By Cecilia M. Ford, Ph.D.

The original list is out of date. Some Deadly Sins are viewed as not so bad anymore, some have been elevated to virtues, and others are now equated with the Devil himself. Of course, as with so many things in our culture, these faults are judged differently in men and in women.

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Dr. Ford on Emotional Health: When It’s Time to Care for Your Abusive Parents

January 23, 2014 by Cecilia M. Ford, Ph.D.

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By Cecilia M. Ford, Ph.D.

Close contact with parents who have mistreated you will likely lead to a reactivation of feelings, memories, and conflicts from the past. Even adult children who believe they’ve successfully put the past behind them find that re-establishing frequent contact may reawaken demons.

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When Relatives Try to Take Over Your Life: The Imposing Sister-in Law

January 16, 2014 by Cecilia M. Ford, Ph.D.

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By Cecilia M. Ford, Ph.D.

Your husband may not understand the feelings of resentment stirred up by women who have used their looks to effortlessly open doors while the rest of us have had to learn to knock, use the doorknobs, or even to pick the locks.

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