Empathy, Informed by Pain

August 30, 2014 by Susan Lieberman

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By Susan Lieberman

I don’t think I read as “old” to most people over 50. But one bum knee and any hope of a youthful image is shot. I am hobbling. I can’t get up gracefully. I wince when my knee is tweaked. I walk “old.”

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Sexual Incompatibility: Might an Affair Save a Passionless Marriage?

August 28, 2014 by Hilda Hutcherson, M.D., and Cecilia M. Ford, Ph.D.

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By Hilda Hutcherson, M.D., and Cecilia M. Ford, Ph.D.

“Some people will judge you harshly for even thinking about having an affair. I will not. A 52-year-old woman has the right to decide how to run her own life. Seeking couples therapy from a sex and marital therapist might help you make a well-informed decision.”

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On Emotional Health: Discovering My Mother Too Late

August 21, 2014 by Barbara Fertig

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In an instant, it seemed, the woman who bore me, the woman who raised me, had become another person, a person I hardly knew. In one rare moment, in one extraordinary place, I was shocked out of an assumption that I could define my mother.

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Dr. Ford on Emotional Health: The Art of War in Marriage

August 14, 2014 by Cecilia M. Ford, Ph.D.

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By Cecilia M. Ford, Ph.D.

“The chance of ending a first marriage over a 40-year period is 67 percent,” notes psychologist John Gottman. Yet he discovered that while some people can fight endlessly about substantive issues and stay together, other couples can break up over who is going to walk the dog.

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Dr. Ford on Emotional Health: The Secret Behind Successful Marriages

August 7, 2014 by Cecilia M. Ford, Ph.D.

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By Cecilia M. Ford, Ph.D.

This week, psychologist Ford focuses on the kind of everyday interaction that helps couples mature into “masters”—or “disasters”—of love.

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Dr. Ford Reviews: Sue Miller’s ‘The Arsonist’—Love’s Dangerous Spark

July 31, 2014 by Cecilia M. Ford, Ph.D.

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Her depiction of Bud and Frankie’s affair lets Miller once again display her exceptional understanding of female sexuality and the uniquely artful way she has of portraying it as a fully integrated part of her characters’ lives.

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Dr. Ford on Emotional Health: Overcoming Fear of Intimacy

July 24, 2014 by Cecilia M. Ford, Ph.D.

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By Cecilia M. Ford, Ph.D.

Imagine a tree, exposed to years of drought at a tender age—it may be smaller, or less robust, than it would have been under ideal conditions. But with special and intensive care, such trees can be coaxed back to health. They may retain marks of the early deprivation, but they can flourish.

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Dr. Ford Reports: The Myth of Safety on Campus

July 17, 2014 by Cecilia M. Ford, Ph.D.

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By Cecilia M. Ford, Ph.D.

The New York Times’s in-depth look at a campus sexual-assault complaint—the incident, the aftermath, and the surrounding culture—was a stunning indictment of the state of affairs for women on campus today.

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Social Security and the Myth of the ‘Gray Tsunami’

July 10, 2014 by Cecilia M. Ford, Ph.D.

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By Cecilia M. Ford, Ph.D.

In addition to worrying about how to cope with the many challenges of aging, we baby boomers are bombarded with the idea that, one way or another, we will be “burdens” to our children—no matter what—in our later years.

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Dr. Moffett on Emotional Health: Before Forgiving

July 3, 2014 by Jane Moffett, LCSW-R, Ph.D., S.E.P

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Is forgiveness a one-way process, given that you know you may never get an apology, or is it a two-way process, in which the perpetrator’s remorse and reparations are important to you?

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Dr. Ford on Emotional Health: When Depression Derails a Controlling Mother

June 26, 2014 by Cecilia M. Ford, Ph.D.

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By Cecilia M. Ford, Ph.D.

“My mother, who needs colon cancer surgery, is not equipped emotionally for this constant stream of bad news. She is depressed, but refuses to see a psychiatrist for an evaluation. What can my sisters and I do to manage this?”

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“Why Am I Like This?” Personality Theories, Old and New

June 19, 2014 by Cecilia M. Ford, Ph.D.

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By Cecilia M. Ford, Ph.D.

If a person has a history of dishonest behavior, is it the result of “bad” character (low “H” factor), or have circumstances such as poverty, addiction, or poor impulse control influenced him, and how much?

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Dr. Ford: Trying to Understand the Mind of a Criminal

June 5, 2014 by Cecilia M. Ford, Ph.D.

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Is there such a thing as a criminal personality? The only profile that comes close to this idea is that of the “psychopath.”

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Finding Peace: An integrative Approach to Healing from Depression

May 27, 2014 by Jane Moffett, LCSW-R, Ph.D., S.E.P

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By Jane Moffett, LCSW-R, Ph.D., S.E.P

There is no quick fix for depression. We must choose to engage in life or retreat into the unhelpful behavior patterns confronting us.

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Dr. Ford Reviews: ‘Can’t We Talk About Something More Pleasant?’

May 22, 2014 by Cecilia M. Ford, Ph.D.

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Imagine, though you may not want to, a book that explores the pain and tragedy of caring for your aging parents. Impossibly, cartoonist Roz Chast has done all this while managing to make her graphic memoir poignantly hilarious.

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