Jane Moffett on Emotional Health: Resilience

October 16, 2014 by Jane Moffett, LCSW-R, Ph.D., S.E.P

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By Jane Moffett, LCSW-R, Ph.D., S.E.P

Reflections on what contributes to resilience, the inner characteristic that pulls us out of the vortex of our own fear and guilt in order to let us live full and meaningful lives.

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Dr. Ford on Emotional Health: Yes, Exercising May Protect Against Depression!

October 9, 2014 by Cecilia M. Ford, Ph.D.

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By Cecilia M. Ford, Ph.D.

A recent Swedish study was able to demonstrate that there is a direct relationship between a certain level of exercise and “resilience” against depression.

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Dr. Ford on Emotional Health: Male Privilege, Male Delusion

October 2, 2014 by Cecilia M. Ford, Ph.D.

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By Cecilia M. Ford, Ph.D.

He’s ill, he’s unattractive, he’s uninteresting, but he still thinks he holds all the cards: money, power, and maleness.

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UNHAPPY TOGETHER, Part 1: Locked In to Marriage

September 25, 2014 by Ellen Sue Spicer-Jacobson

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By Ellen Sue Spicer-Jacobson

“When I was walking down the aisle and my eyes met his, I had this cold chill, and I thought, ‘I do not want to spend the rest of my life looking at his face every morning,’ my friend Paula told me. She had expressed her misgivings to her bridesmaid the night before, but she’d been too embarrassed to step up then and say, ‘No way!’”

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UNHAPPY TOGETHER, Part 2: When You Quell the Inner Voice That Says NO

September 25, 2014 by Cecilia M. Ford, Ph.D.

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By Cecilia M. Ford, Ph.D.

To paraphrase psychiatrist Harry Stack Sullivan (who said, “We are all more human than otherwise”), all marriages are more imperfect than otherwise, and the question sometimes becomes this: Which imperfections [in your mate or potential mate] can you truly not live with?

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Dr. Ford on Domestic Violence: Helping Someone in an Abusive Relationship

September 18, 2014 by Cecilia M. Ford, Ph.D.

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By Cecilia M. Ford, Ph.D.

One of the mistakes friends, family, and even therapists often make (I learned this the hard way) is that when the victim confides in them, they exhort her to protect herself and leave. Often, however, she is not yet ready to do that, because she is still feeling trapped. Then the next time he hurts her, she is less likely to confide in her support group because she feels ashamed that she has ignored their advice.

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She’s Young (14!) and Sexually Active: Dr. Ford Counsels Her Distraught Mother

September 11, 2014 by Cecilia M. Ford, Ph.D.

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By Cecilia M. Ford, Ph.D.

There is no strong consensus in our culture anymore about standards of behavior. While some kids have always violated social norms when it comes to early sexuality, at least they knew what the norms were. Today’s parents don’t make it clear enough where they stand on this issue.

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Dr. Ford on Emotional Health: Social Anxiety Disorder—Leading a Bleak, Constricted Life

September 4, 2014 by Cecilia M. Ford, Ph.D.

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By Cecilia M. Ford, Ph.D.

“I have ‘habits’ that make me feel less anxious: I drive the same route every day, park in the same spot, eat the same lunch, leave at the same time, and take the same route home. I don’t know if I can function if I have to change anything in my life.”

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Empathy, Informed by Pain

August 30, 2014 by Susan Lieberman

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By Susan Lieberman

I don’t think I read as “old” to most people over 50. But one bum knee and any hope of a youthful image is shot. I am hobbling. I can’t get up gracefully. I wince when my knee is tweaked. I walk “old.”

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Sexual Incompatibility: Might an Affair Save a Passionless Marriage?

August 28, 2014 by Hilda Hutcherson, M.D., and Cecilia M. Ford, Ph.D.

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By Hilda Hutcherson, M.D., and Cecilia M. Ford, Ph.D.

“Some people will judge you harshly for even thinking about having an affair. I will not. A 52-year-old woman has the right to decide how to run her own life. Seeking couples therapy from a sex and marital therapist might help you make a well-informed decision.”

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On Emotional Health: Discovering My Mother Too Late

August 21, 2014 by Barbara Fertig

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In an instant, it seemed, the woman who bore me, the woman who raised me, had become another person, a person I hardly knew. In one rare moment, in one extraordinary place, I was shocked out of an assumption that I could define my mother.

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Dr. Ford on Emotional Health: The Art of War in Marriage

August 14, 2014 by Cecilia M. Ford, Ph.D.

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By Cecilia M. Ford, Ph.D.

“The chance of ending a first marriage over a 40-year period is 67 percent,” notes psychologist John Gottman. Yet he discovered that while some people can fight endlessly about substantive issues and stay together, other couples can break up over who is going to walk the dog.

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Dr. Ford on Emotional Health: The Secret Behind Successful Marriages

August 7, 2014 by Cecilia M. Ford, Ph.D.

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By Cecilia M. Ford, Ph.D.

This week, psychologist Ford focuses on the kind of everyday interaction that helps couples mature into “masters”—or “disasters”—of love.

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Dr. Ford Reviews: Sue Miller’s ‘The Arsonist’—Love’s Dangerous Spark

July 31, 2014 by Cecilia M. Ford, Ph.D.

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By Cecilia M. Ford, Ph.D.

Her depiction of Bud and Frankie’s affair lets Miller once again display her exceptional understanding of female sexuality and the uniquely artful way she has of portraying it as a fully integrated part of her characters’ lives.

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Dr. Ford on Emotional Health: Overcoming Fear of Intimacy

July 24, 2014 by Cecilia M. Ford, Ph.D.

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By Cecilia M. Ford, Ph.D.

Imagine a tree, exposed to years of drought at a tender age—it may be smaller, or less robust, than it would have been under ideal conditions. But with special and intensive care, such trees can be coaxed back to health. They may retain marks of the early deprivation, but they can flourish.

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