Dr. Ford on Domestic Violence: Helping Someone in an Abusive Relationship

September 18, 2014 by Cecilia M. Ford, Ph.D.


By Cecilia M. Ford, Ph.D.

One of the mistakes friends, family, and even therapists often make (I learned this the hard way) is that when the victim confides in them, they exhort her to protect herself and leave. Often, however, she is not yet ready to do that, because she is still feeling trapped. Then the next time he hurts her, she is less likely to confide in her support group because she feels ashamed that she has ignored their advice.

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Dr. Pat Consults: When is Laser Treatment the Best Option for Skin Cancer?

September 15, 2014 by Anetta Reszko, M.D.

Skin Lesion

By Anetta Reszko, M.D.

Because laser light penetrates to only a certain depth within the skin, laser surgery kills only tumor cells on the surface of the skin. As a result, the laser treatment should be considered for biopsy proven superficial low-risk tumors when other techniques were unsuccessful or are poor surgical candidates.

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She’s Young (14!) and Sexually Active: Dr. Ford Counsels Her Distraught Mother

September 11, 2014 by Cecilia M. Ford, Ph.D.


By Cecilia M. Ford, Ph.D.

There is no strong consensus in our culture anymore about standards of behavior. While some kids have always violated social norms when it comes to early sexuality, at least they knew what the norms were. Today’s parents don’t make it clear enough where they stand on this issue.

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Dr. Pat Consults: Cosmetic Surgery on the Eyelid—the Benefits, the Hazards

September 8, 2014 by Leila Rafla-Demetrious, M.D.

eye lids

By Leila Rafla-Demetrious, M.D.

“I had my eyes done by a plastic surgeon. I just wanted the droopy upper lids cut back, since they were hideous and wrinkly. . . . The surgeon told me that I needed both “upper and lower” work. I now have dry eyes and the inside of my lower eyelid on one eye is pulled down. What can be done?”

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Dr. Ford on Emotional Health: Social Anxiety Disorder—Leading a Bleak, Constricted Life

September 4, 2014 by Cecilia M. Ford, Ph.D.


By Cecilia M. Ford, Ph.D.

“I have ‘habits’ that make me feel less anxious: I drive the same route every day, park in the same spot, eat the same lunch, leave at the same time, and take the same route home. I don’t know if I can function if I have to change anything in my life.”

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Empathy, Informed by Pain

August 30, 2014 by Susan Lieberman


By Susan Lieberman

I don’t think I read as “old” to most people over 50. But one bum knee and any hope of a youthful image is shot. I am hobbling. I can’t get up gracefully. I wince when my knee is tweaked. I walk “old.”

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Sexual Incompatibility: Might an Affair Save a Passionless Marriage?

August 28, 2014 by Hilda Hutcherson, M.D., and Cecilia M. Ford, Ph.D.


By Hilda Hutcherson, M.D., and Cecilia M. Ford, Ph.D.

“Some people will judge you harshly for even thinking about having an affair. I will not. A 52-year-old woman has the right to decide how to run her own life. Seeking couples therapy from a sex and marital therapist might help you make a well-informed decision.”

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Dr. Pat Consults: The Ebola Epidemic—Fear of Flying to Africa

August 25, 2014 by Jason S. Kendler


By Dr. Jason Kendler

Unlike viruses such as influenza (the flu), the Ebola virus is generally not spread from person to person in the air. Because of this, traveling on an airplane with someone with the Ebola virus would NOT put you at risk, unless there is some DIRECT PHYSICAL CONTACT with his or her bodily fluids.

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Molly Fisk: Where There’s a Will . . .

August 23, 2014 by Molly Fisk


By Molly Fisk

When I say to myself, “I think Sarah would like those pearl earrings,” or “Sam should have the painting of Vermont,” a voice in my head pipes up at once and says, “Hey! I like those earrings, why does Sarah get to have them?!?” and “That’s MY painting of Vermont!”

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On Emotional Health: Discovering My Mother Too Late

August 21, 2014 by Barbara Fertig


By Barbara Fertig

In an instant, it seemed, the woman who bore me, the woman who raised me, had become another person, a person I hardly knew. In one rare moment, in one extraordinary place, I was shocked out of an assumption that I could define my mother.

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Dr. Pat Consults: Searching for Early Signs of Skin Cancer

August 18, 2014 by Anetta Reszko, M.D.


Anetta Reszko, M.D.

“My sister was just diagnosed with invasive squamous cell cancer on the back of her thigh. Shouldn’t her dermatologist—whom she sees three times a year for ‘cosmetic stuff’—have also been routinely checking her for skin cancer?”

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Dr. Ford on Emotional Health: The Art of War in Marriage

August 14, 2014 by Cecilia M. Ford, Ph.D.


By Cecilia M. Ford, Ph.D.

“The chance of ending a first marriage over a 40-year period is 67 percent,” notes psychologist John Gottman. Yet he discovered that while some people can fight endlessly about substantive issues and stay together, other couples can break up over who is going to walk the dog.

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Dr. Pat Consults: Collagenous Colitis—Causes, Diagnosis, Treatment

August 11, 2014 by Dr. Carl McDougall


By Dr. Carl McDougall

This week, Dr. Pat Allen asks Dr. Carl McDougall, a gastroenterologist in private practice in New York City, to counsel a woman who was suddenly and mysteriously struck with a disorder called collagenous colitis.

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Dr. Ford on Emotional Health: The Secret Behind Successful Marriages

August 7, 2014 by Cecilia M. Ford, Ph.D.


By Cecilia M. Ford, Ph.D.

This week, psychologist Ford focuses on the kind of everyday interaction that helps couples mature into “masters”—or “disasters”—of love.

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Dr. Pat Consults: Joint Injections for Lower-Back Pain

August 4, 2014 by Patricia Yarberry Allen, MD Dr. James F. Wyss, MD, PT


By Dr. James F. Wyss, MD, PT

“My orthopedist offered to do facet injections into my spine to see if it would help the pain and help me work with a physical therapist again. This sounds really frightening to me. What is the injection, actually?”

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