Comments on: Breast Cancer: Motherhood, apple pie and the “positive attitude” http://womensvoicesforchange.org/breast-cancer-motherhood-apple-pie-and-the-positive-attitude.htm Fri, 12 Mar 2010 23:40:09 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Kathleen O'Brien http://womensvoicesforchange.org/breast-cancer-motherhood-apple-pie-and-the-positive-attitude.htm/comment-page-1#comment-17122 Kathleen O'Brien Thu, 05 Nov 2009 21:15:07 +0000 http://womensvoicesforchange.org/?p=9589#comment-17122 Thanks, Violet. It really is striking how determined people are to tell you how to feel. They do it to be helpful; they've read or heard about cancer patients who recoil at hearing any bad news. I get that. But it still is strange to be on the receiving end of emotional marching orders. My oncologist said it can be quite awkward when relatives of the patient try to get her to join in. She's told: "And it's important for him to have a positive attitude, right, doctor?" Thanks, Violet. It really is striking how determined people are to tell you how to feel. They do it to be helpful; they’ve read or heard about cancer patients who recoil at hearing any bad news. I get that. But it still is strange to be on the receiving end of emotional marching orders.

My oncologist said it can be quite awkward when relatives of the patient try to get her to join in. She’s told: “And it’s important for him to have a positive attitude, right, doctor?”

]]> By: Violet Snow http://womensvoicesforchange.org/breast-cancer-motherhood-apple-pie-and-the-positive-attitude.htm/comment-page-1#comment-16912 Violet Snow Wed, 04 Nov 2009 14:58:14 +0000 http://womensvoicesforchange.org/?p=9589#comment-16912 Barbara Ehrenreich, after a struggle with cancer, recently published a book on this exact topic. So it's a viewpoint whose time has come--good for you, for bucking the tide. Barbara Ehrenreich, after a struggle with cancer, recently published a book on this exact topic. So it’s a viewpoint whose time has come–good for you, for bucking the tide.

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