http://womensvoicesforchange.org/aging-gracefully.htm Fri, 19 Mar 2010 05:42:05 -0400 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 http://womensvoicesforchange.org/aging-gracefully.htm/comment-page-1#comment-2722 Carolyn Hahn Sat, 12 Jan 2008 20:06:21 +0000 http://womensvoicesforchange.org/aging-gracefully.htm#comment-2722 Interesting comment, Tami. I just saw Mary Tyler Moore on TV the other day--PBS show on the history of SIT coms, so it offered her through the years, as it were. She looked REALLY done. Much as I adore Mary Tyler Moore, I felt strange watching her--it was like Jocelyn Wildenstein, that gallery owner's wife who had plastic surgery to look like a tiger. Jocelyn looks bizarre, but Mary also just looked not quite of our world. I thought "is that the only way to keep up in Hollywood"? Because it seems to involve a total denial of self, somehow. That said, I bought this InStyle book on beauty for 5 bucks at the thrift shop and followed their eyebrow suggestions (brush 'em up, trim) and it was amazing--like a mini-face lift, they said, and it was! I look better (says me) than I ever have, and it is, in fact, in an older, more elegant, more styled way than I did when I was young. I recognized that knowing one's face/style better will add up to a look that is attractive (by society standards) but even the word "knowing" is often the opposite of "youth." You gotta live a while to know stuff. I guess what I'm going for is an elegant knowing, rather than a youthful look, and it's interesting to see which women out there I can use as role models. Coco Chanel at 55 was more beautiful than she was when she was younger (then she got older and began to look like an overly made up hag complete with jutting cigarette crumbling off her lip). Interesting comment, Tami. I just saw Mary Tyler Moore on TV the other day–PBS show on the history of SIT coms, so it offered her through the years, as it were. She looked REALLY done. Much as I adore Mary Tyler Moore, I felt strange watching her–it was like Jocelyn Wildenstein, that gallery owner’s wife who had plastic surgery to look like a tiger. Jocelyn looks bizarre, but Mary also just looked not quite of our world. I thought “is that the only way to keep up in Hollywood”? Because it seems to involve a total denial of self, somehow.
That said, I bought this InStyle book on beauty for 5 bucks at the thrift shop and followed their eyebrow suggestions (brush ‘em up, trim) and it was amazing–like a mini-face lift, they said, and it was! I look better (says me) than I ever have, and it is, in fact, in an older, more elegant, more styled way than I did when I was young. I recognized that knowing one’s face/style better will add up to a look that is attractive (by society standards) but even the word “knowing” is often the opposite of “youth.” You gotta live a while to know stuff. I guess what I’m going for is an elegant knowing, rather than a youthful look, and it’s interesting to see which women out there I can use as role models. Coco Chanel at 55 was more beautiful than she was when she was younger (then she got older and began to look like an overly made up hag complete with jutting cigarette crumbling off her lip).

]]> http://womensvoicesforchange.org/aging-gracefully.htm/comment-page-1#comment-2723 Tami Anderson Thu, 10 Jan 2008 22:52:28 +0000 http://womensvoicesforchange.org/aging-gracefully.htm#comment-2723 What is fascinating to me is that while these women don't look like "traditional" (read: wrinkled, sagging) grandmothers, they don't look exactly youthful either. As much as plastic surgery can lift and pull and make so-called flaws disappear, it can't mimic actual youth. Joan Rivers has far fewer wrinkles than most 30 year-olds but would anyone describe her look as young? Sadly, we are going to have to come up with a new word. What is fascinating to me is that while these women don’t look like “traditional” (read: wrinkled, sagging) grandmothers, they don’t look exactly youthful either. As much as plastic surgery can lift and pull and make so-called flaws disappear, it can’t mimic actual youth. Joan Rivers has far fewer wrinkles than most 30 year-olds but would anyone describe her look as young? Sadly, we are going to have to come up with a new word.

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